I’ve heard it said before: “opinions are like a##holes, everybody has one”. It’s so easy to give advice to other people and not walk the walk yourself so I embrace my shortcomings. They give me something to look forward to working on. I came to the realization that I am far from perfect. I think this column helps me to put things into perspective since this is the restructuring phase of my life. Some things we do in life are irreparable. Those are just some things we have to learn to live with. Others are more recoverable so we try not to repeat our steps if we’ve learned the lesson that was taught.
It’s interesting to see how people react to others’ trials and tribulations. We all look for something or someone to believe in. For example, we expect the leaders of our churches to show us the way to God but are surprised when they themselves sin. Messengers don’t always deliver the correct mail to the right address. Another example; did you think Obama would flip the country around by himself? Hope is great but the men who were previously in office couldn’t do it either.
When I was younger, I used to wonder how Superman could leap tall buildings in a single bound. He could fly through the air, had the strength of a thousand men, and was a hero to many. But, his weakness was a green rock. That’s when I realized that the super-being I looked up to was just a man in tights; he was only human under all of that.
Sometimes we put people on pedestals and when they fall off of them, we are heart broken by the disappointment. When people fall short of our expectations, we act like they are not supposed to. Have you ever looked in the mirror and seen the blemishes in your life? Guess what? You are allowed to make mistakes. You are going to be disappointed by others and you will do some disappointing of your own. That’s just the way life is. It’s not a crutch to lean on though. We all have the potential to be better. The important thing to know is that no one is perfect. We are only human.